so do you think a child should take care of their shidduchim on their own? we are talking about a young girl right out of school not someone a little older
Assuming that she’s truly mature enough and ready to get married, then yes.
And that does not mean that she has to cut her parents (or other respected figures) out of the process. She can certainly (and I would encourage her to) turn to them for advice, recommendations and suggestions. But if she’s truly mature enough to get married and knows what she wants in a spouse, then why not?