If you think the world is out to get you, and everyone is lying to you and is hiding some big dark secret, unless you are a private investigator you will not uncover all skeletons in everyones closet. Even then, some will stay hidden. There seems to be an obsession with knowing everything there is to know about someone before agreeing to meet them for a shidduch meeting. Every nuance about a persons personality, the personality of the parents, uncles and cousins, this fascination with how other people live, the things they do and how they do it lends an almost vouyeristic quality to todays shidduchim.
RB. I’m not sure what “charliehall post” you refer to, but the last one I read, he doesnt say anything that I adisagree with, nor does he say anything that disagrees with me. Either way, it is my opinion that todays shidduch game, has become an end to itself and not a means. It seems as if the goal is to amass as much info as possible to find that one reason to reject a shidduch. I spoke to a 40 year old guy and 37 year old girl last night (dont know either very well, but have mutual friends of both and I was chosen as the go between to set them up) and both were looking for that one little nugget so that they could say no, I dont want to meet this person.