aries, unfortunately there’s lots of lieing parents around. Theyre not unique. Uch in Vey if we’re depending on the parents to fess up about their child. Even now they’re saying the divorce happened because there is something wrong with her! Thats the way it goes in Divorceland! If I wasnt closely involved, Id think that might be the case. From what Ive seen, parents N E V E R offer negative info on their kids, unless its something obvious! Theyre looking for another victim, nebach. I feel bad for them too though. They didnt cause the original problem.
Anyhow, the Posek told me that if Im pushed against the wall, I have to say something. Maybe not give all the details, but not deny it totally.
Tums, I was never contacted by the Kallah’s side, b”H, but just the fact that I and almost everyone at that Lchayim knew and pretended, bothers me terribly.