would you rather your son-in-law sit in kollel all his life and struggle to make ends meet or a boy who went to harvard and will (key word)IYH! make a good living support his wife, your daughter and be a baal chesed and have regular sedorim?
I would rather my son-in-law do what’s right for him and my daughter. He will have to decide, with his wife, based on his abilities, temperament and the way they want to live their lives what the right choice is for them.
The Wolf