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As Torah Jews, we follow the Torah and its laws. Those laws are the basis of our behaviour. Our feelings are not reliable indication of correct behaviour.
A Rabbi is not ‘the only way to G-d’ and I don’t think anyone would claim that. The Torah is the only way to G-d. We need our Rabbis to teach us the correct Torah way. And when it comes to matters not explicitly mentioned in the Torah, we rely on our Rabbis to direct us, even though we ourselves may not understand their reasoning.
It’s an intricate topic and a chat room discussion cannot fully do justice to it.
As for the topic of Chassidishe Rebbes and head shaving, that is a separate topic, not directly related to halacha.