Prettyinpink:
I for one (for whatever it counts) am NOT a proponent of paying $150 to meet the girls for numerous reasons. I DO believe in shadcanim being appreciated for the results they prodcuce.
Date number one is a measurable result and date number for is clearly a quality idea. The money is NOT paid by the families, but rather by the community, thus the families don’t take it into consideration when considering the shidduch. (in the communites that haven’t publicized it the girls and their families aren’t even aware that the program exists, they simply find themselves with far more shidduch opportunites..)
The results speak for themselves. I won’t even bother debating the theory. RESULTS RESULTS RESUTLS…. (defined and measured by shidduch attention for girls who didn’t JUST start dating).
Shlishi: The local coordinators want to make sure they are deaing with people who are taking it seriously and abusing or redding silly suggestions. So far in the four communites that are running it there hasn’t been one instance of miscounduct, and any person who does simply gets disinvited. Once the potential shadchan reaches out to them they will be invited but it’s simply a way to prevent abuse.