binahyeseira & MW, the disconnection comes from NOT being taught the LOVE of Yiddishkeit rather being taught the Lav of Yiddishkeit. Everyone is so so busy teaching kids what they are doing wrong instead of teaching them or respecting them for what they are doing right! The best way to TEACH LOVE is with encouragement and positive energy not criticisms and negativity. There is no room for negativity when dealing with children. If you want children to love Hashem, love Yiddishkeit and Love learning you have to make it a loving experience, make it palatable and make it as sweet as heaven itself. The home has to be a symbol of the BEAUTY of yiddishkeit and NOT of how hard it is to be a Jew. The Yeshiva has to be a place where Yiddin are b’simcha and yiddishkeit is taught b’simcha. It has to be taught with love. Every mechanech has to be warm and caring. They have to be invested in the success of their students. It can’t just be a JOB for them. And if they goof and make a mistake THEY have to show that they are human and be accountable and responsible. IF they have to apologize do so. They can’t ignore an error just to teach you have to have respect for the mechanech. THAT backfires. Admitting you were wrong, apologizing and showing respect for the TALMID shows the talmidim that they must doubly respect the mechanech because they are being taught the true Torah Mode. They are taught that EVEN a Rebbe or a Rosh is only Human and NOT on the madreigah of Hashem and can make a mistake, correct it, and keep going. That is a very important lesson for children. Children are made to feel that if they make a mistake their life is over.
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