Sorry to hear that, but glad to hear you’re ready to take the initaitive. I’m re-posting (with some minor editing) something I wrote yesterday (in case you did’nt see it)
No matter what your “brand” you can do your homework and find the person that is right for you. Once you know what you want, setting the ball in motion is easy. Don’t be held hostage by the “system”. Talk to the Rov (and his Rebbetizn) that you’re affiliated with and tell them what you seek. You’d be surprised at what comes across their desk.
And if that does not yield results, talk to another Rov / Rebbetizn that is from a similar shul / background. Networking is the key to success.
Its my personal bias, but I put very little faith in professional shadchanim. Unless you are sitting on a major money pile, you’ll have a tough time getting noticed. Don’t burn any bridges, but don’t hold your breath either.
You’re attitude and optimisim is rare and refreshing. You’ll go far, and will make a great spouse. You are truly the bomb!