“She’ll probably have to take a second rate shidduch.”
I agree with everything you said (about being supportive and sensitive) but take great issue with the 2nd rate quote.
What is 2nd rate about someone? Is your friend 2nd rate because she has divorced family members? (Not according to your words, ” good girl, smart, pretty”)
What we as a community need to start doing is looking at people for who they are, not what the media spin tells us to think about them.