bombmaniac: I accept there is a difference between the disabled analogy and BTs.
I have not however assumed that that ‘there cannot be harmony etc.’. If you read my posts carefully you will see that I said only that there was an increased chance of marital disharmony. No inherent unavoidable problem ch’v- just a real POSSIBILITY that there can be a compatibility issues. Again – it’s COMPATIBILITY. That means not that neither the Bt nor the FFB is in any way inferior Heaven Forbid – just together they may not jell. (I have the greatest respect for BTs. If I were not fortunate enough myself to have been brought up in a frum family, I cannot put hand on heart and say I would have made the sacrifices and gone through the struggles Bts have gone through.)
So its not about STIGMA or INFERIORITY. Its about COMPATIBILITY. Just that the two histories, experiences and upbringings can bring out a discord later