tobg, you don’t understand what we are dealing with here. You are being fed this kind of nonsense from psychological manuals that are written by the permissive leftists who create the conditions that allow the Arons and the Dahmers to walk the streets.
We are dealing with defects in brain chemistry, not normal people who just aren’t friendly. If the rav of wherever he was from had said good morning to Hitler yemach shmoi when he was growing up, there still would have been a churban. If the Fogels HYD had said hello every morning to their murderers, they’d still be dead. These human animals cannot be socialized. They’re born wired wrong. In some cases it is clear what happened – many street thugs were born to mothers who used drugs during pregnancy.
Still, we had fools in Crown Heights back when I lived there saying that if we were only nicer to our local thieves, they’d stop stealing. Yeah, right. Williamsburgh has hardly any crime because they don’t tolerate it – their shomrim don’t fear the law because of their political connections and they don’t mind leaving a miscreant in critical condition as a warning to the next one who tries.
What you are saying is the same as saying that if Solomon D-ek’s parents had given him more as a kid, he would not have grown up to be a thief and a moiser. Solomon D-ek lacked for nothing as a child; he has very wealthy uncles who knew he wanted to go into business and they supported both him and his father who is a rav very well.
And the king of the sociopaths, Osama bin Laden yemach shmo, had everything in this world and did what he did.
These people are born reshoim. Until Moshiach comes, we will not understand why people are born this way. But for now, we have to keep them far, far away from ourselves and our children.