There’s more pressure on the girls to be ready younger, and as they grow, more and more girls are coming into the market. Girls need to be ready very young, set up financially either by parents or having their own means of parnasah at a very young age (how is an 18 year old going to do that?). The boys have the luxury of time, both biologically and socially. So there’s a scramble to get the girls set up and matched young. This scramble puts the boys at the advantage, when a person/gender is not as desperate, they can afford to take their time. The amazing thing is that it is the girls who are so pretty, make such a monumental effort to look good, work hard, behave nicely, and are willing to be moser nefesh letorah, who scramble and not the boys. I agree with you. It seems backwards.
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