“i didnt realize that he doesnt listen to daas torah”
It was in the op. I’ve posted the line below:
“They have gone to rabbonim and her husbamd wont listen when they tell him to get a job”
As I said earlier, few people advocate harder than I do for giving a shaky relationship a 2nd (or 3rd) try more than I do.
But providing for your family is job # 1 for a husband. If he does not do that (or does not help with household work if wife is the primary provider) he has relinquished the title husband, and needs to be put on notice.
The problem is, our society will carry him along with handouts and excuses as long as he does not turn physically violent.
Not fair, and he should be kicked out, as he has not earned the right to be there.
Go, and good riddance.