BPT – “My comments are based on what the OP says, and I have no reason to doubt her.”
Why? Because the wife says so or because the wife said the Rov said so?
He BTW, also has a Chezkas Kashrus beside the fact “its not that uncommon in our circles to find husbands that are allowing their wives to bear the burden of both the homemaker AND the breadwinner”!
“But I still stick with the 6 month deadline. If he is willing to work things out, she will surely give him the chance.”
Memana Shuch, if he is willing to go for couselling, you wait until the therapist says so. If the therapist says he is progressing, so then you keep waiting. If he isn’t willing to go for therapy, why wait six months? She shouldn’t stick around even now!
“(L-rd knows, she’s given him 10+ years!)”
Like I posted before – the time until now doesn’t make a difference, a person can turn over a new leaf with the help of professionals. Unless the professionals say there is no use and btw this situation is very, very rare. Mental Health professionals can help almost anyone. But I find your attitude to be pervasive in the Frum community by a lot of people even some who are Rabbonim. Stop judging up others unless you are experienced in marital counselling. There are Some Rabbonim and therapists who are. And just like there are doctors whom are specialists, there are Rabbonim and therapists who specialize in marital counselling and/or advice!