blabla, firstly refuah sheleimah. Secondly lets be very clear of the dangerous consequences of this terrible disease. The worst thing that can happen is “death”. If a person gets so caught up in this disease and does not get help it could lead to death by starvation.
Having said that the next question is why and how does anyone get this disease? This disease is associated with Type A personality. Young people who are basically aiming for perfection. People pleasers, those who are always trying to please everyone and doing the right things, ignoring their own needs and their own inner voice. Always striving and always looking for everyone’s pat on the head and approval. This is a control issue. This is a means of having control over something in their life that no one else knows about and no one else can control but the individual. It winds up being a secret for a long time and that is part of the disease how you fool everyone and hide it. But eventually people start to notice that the patient is “scary” skinny. That they look like a concentration camp survivor. But they themselves don’t see it at all. They are all caught up in how great they are at “not eating” or using laxatives or even purging everything they eat. That is super control. They stop paying attention to the warning signs like the heart palpitations, the dizziness, the nausea, etc. And then they get a high that they can conquer it and keep going, or sneak it past another friend of family member.
They don’t notice their bones sticking out when they look in the mirror. They have a distorted body image. They don’t understand why their parents are crying and forcing them into the hospital.
I pray that you are very committed to healing and that you seriously work with your support team and any other support system that they recommend. You are too important to lose.