Reply To: How can I change my attitude

My point isn’t that extra frumkeit isn’t admirable. It is. But there are ways to do things without making it so obvious.

There is a Rebbe who lives on my block. Whenever he walks, he keeps his head down, regardless of who is out at that time. Therefore, if we pass in the street, he doesn’t do anything obvious to show that he won’t look at me. He was never looking up in the first place! He does it in such a modest way, and I guess I wish everyone would do it like that and R’ Pincus. Subtle.

As for the elevator, when I learned hilchos yichud, we were told that an elevator, especially such a short ride as mine is permisslbe. That’s why I had a hard time wrapping my mind around people who would walk out of an elevator if I was in it.