It isn’t good to cry out of a kind of sadness that is a complaint. BUT, it is defintely okay to cry from a broken heart, and a heart of YEARNING. Yearning and complaining are very different. Hashem doesn’t like complaining, but he listens to your heartfelt tears of longing and yearning.So if you are crying from a complaining point of view, channel it to yearning instead. Bring into your heart that Hashem only gives us what we can handle, no matter how hard it seems right now, its for your benefit and out of His love for you. I learned, Rav Gamliel Rabinovitch, in Sefer Tiv HaEmunah writes that Hashem feels our pain as much as we do. As painful as it is to us, it is to Him as well. It isn’t a good feeling. The difference is that with us, we gain from it somehow. We become stronger, our perspectives change, and hopefully we get closer to Hashem and the emes of life. Hashem gets no benefit. So we know there is some light after the darkness. There is light WITHIN your darkness because Hashem is IN that darkness. But with Hashem, He feels the pain, but has no benefit. Try to remember that. I know it is hard.
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