Reply To: What do I tell myself?

I would suggest that your son might your need help in setting up such a play date. It probably depends on his age, but if they’re setting up play dates, then I would suspect that he’s still young. If you spoke directly to his mother and got such a comment from her, then you could find some way to gently explain to your son that it didn’t work out, rather than him hearing it in such a direct and hurtful manner. Only after a relationship develops would I let my kids make such arrangements on their own. I apologize in advance if this is actually what happened, but I didn’t understand it this way from your original question.