I don’t believe that you can take Halacha just pshat. You have to go to a RAV and look at the details of each case. Nothing is as simple as pshat. I am currently involved in a case where the man’s Rav said the woman did not have to toivel because HE was abusive. Then the same Rav referred to her as a moredes. Obviously her RAV did NOT agree, nor did the other Rabbonim asked.
I am purposely using these terms because of those who should not be exposed this discussion and I am reminding all to be careful what you disclose on this thread.