Yes, I think it is. For example: men claiming women belong in the kitchen is sexist. Likewise, people thinking men shouldn’t cook or bake is sexist, too. Etc. When it comes to halacha, where the Torah/Rabbis forbid something (like girls learning gemara, or women dressing a certain way), then I can’t argue with that. But the fact that men should do something while women shouldn’t, or women should do something while men shouldn’t, to me it is sexist.
How do YOU define sexism then?
Who came up with all of this anyway? Why does it matter what a girl looks like? For a religion that is all about doing mitzvos, helping each other out, middos, valuing one’s neshama, this is all hypocritical, IMO. Sure it is very important for a guy to feel attracted to his wife, but this is one of the shallowest things I’ve ever seen in the frum community. And I take it very seriously because I am part of the frum Jews where this is being practiced. I have a right to be upset if it bothers me. I bet many guys would choose personality over looks any time. And one that does not, does not deserve to have a wife with a good personality. I’m sorry. I don’t want to get nasty, but we are acting almost as bad as the goyim here…
Oh, and you think girls don’t have the right to want to feel attracted to their husbands? Why is it that girls need to settle for okay when the guys only want the top. This reminds me of a documentary I watched about some third world country where there were massive growths on people’s bodies (mostly faces). All the men were married, but the women? No way! Men must have pretty wives, right? What about the women? I think instead of encouraging boys to look at looks (and I mean size two, too) their parents should teach them how to find the gem inside. Remember, diamonds are covered in dirt until you clean them.