What about a young child who has a learning disability because of a health issue? I registered my child in a wonderful frum playgroup near my house, but had to give up the frum education for 1-2 years because of my child’s issues. We were told by several therapists and playgroup morah that he needed a special setting at least for the time being to support his needs and delays. Believe me, I worry about the frumkeit he is missing out on (he’s in a class with almost all frum kids) but with NO Yiddishkeit, Torah, etc. It’s a therapeutic school. All these children and parents have no choice. The kids will have to learn about Yiddishkeit from the home only. It’s not ideal, but in some cases necessary.
A child who has no issues should attend yeshiva. Even when very young, children still absorb that which they’re taught. My three year old heard a song my husband played on the radio in the car (“I like it like that”) and began singing it. I was HORRIFIED!!! They do listen and they do learn!
Yeshiva is just not their priority. If it were, they could find a school (maybe not their first choice) where the wife would not have to work so hard to meet tuition. There are very few people who can send their kids to Public schools and still educate their kids properly in Yiddishkeit. They will be isolated socially and viewed differently by all. In our parents generation it was more common for frum people to go to public school because there were not that many yeshivas. Even t.v. Is not what it once was. It was pretty innocent 30-40 years ago. Now, the filth. When children are paired with kids from homes who don’t share our values, they, by extension, they expose their own kids to the same negative values that their peers are exposed to in the home.