@aries: While i do agree with what your saying, it’s hard for me to put it past me as this effects who i am today. She is NOT part of my social circle, she actually never was. She was my principal in HS. I’m out of school for a while however, even though i thought it would change once i’m outta school, it unfortunately has not! What she’s done to me has been out in the public & has caused many rumors, hurt, the way people view me as a person, problems with my family & friends & goes without saying problems with shidduchim. In general my whole perspective on life & as a frum jew has changed. Basically i suffer for all she’s done on a day to day basis. So how is it possible to forgive & forget??