First of all welcome :)If recycling is your first complaint, I think that actually you are adjusting rather nicely.
I think overtime you will like it here or at least tolerate it better you will also make more friends something a bit hard to do in summer time when people are constantly away. You have not given it long enough.As above poster said every place has pros and cons.
Where did you move to maybe we can give you some pointers to make your adjustment easier.BP Flatbush Marine park Queens? What type of shule you want places to eat and shop etc..
I do definitely agree that NY does have some onerous regulations.I would just like to point out regarding the study published by George Mason university in Virginia”NY is the the state with the least freedom” I read about that study.The same study which criticized NY tax practices also mentioned Maine for over controlling for having a helmet law and criticized the northeast in general. The study seems to neglect that northeastern states are also where you can get access to many city and state benefits, and have some of the most tolerant people(albeit, sometimes a bit to liberal) you will find anywhere.
Hatzlacha in all please respond so we might help you with your move