yungerman1, the women who are so much more educated than we were when we were young, should KNOW BETTER than to give their children less than what they deserve!!! They should KNOW that their obligation is to the welfare of their children before their own. If they need more stimulation, they can do something from home while raising their children or supervising the appropriate help from home.
As I said, there is a difference when someone HAS to go to work and someone who just WANTS to go to work. Society has made it “cool” for mothers to do so, but as a Frum woman, mother and grandmother who had to go to work after my last child was born. There is a huge difference in the kids that you raise on your own and it is NOT fair to them.