Reply To: Lesson of bitochon in SHIDDUCHIM…

photogenic: “I guess that if it’s a possibility that his sister was hurt, is there any way to contact her? That may be an interesting thought. Especially since it seems that quite some time has passed by.”

-She will have nooo idea what I’m talking about as that scenareo in my dream never played it’self in real life, so if there is sth that I need to recon for and ask forgiveness, I am guessing that my rejection paid for it…

individual: “What if you are on the side that did the breaking up, Is it appropriate to ask mechila years later? I still am unsure if it was done in the most sensitive way.”

-If you honestly felt you were not bashert for each other, and you tried to do it in the most sensitive way, then it’s up to the person that you broke up with to see it as being min hashamayim. You did your part by making sure to be sensitive to the other person’s feelings so there is no reason to ask mechila. If that person is upset, which is 100% natural for a human reaction, it is up to them to face that nisoyon and rise above human nature, After all that is what we are here for.. In addition to that i’ll also suggest that asking mechila would just open up closed wounds…