workaholic -“after marriage when it’s suddenly ok to wear long (and I mean LONG) sheitals. Just wondering…What’s the hetter (I thought it’s worse for a married woman to wear her hair in an attractive way)?”
It’s not necessarily based on attractiveness.
There are definitely Poskim who say you can’t wear long Shaitels and some say you can’t wear any Shaitel at all (Tichel or similar only). Usually these Poskim come from the Chassidish or Yerushalmi type neighborhoods.
Most Poskim in the Litvitshe or modern communities don’t hold these are Ossur!