Regarding the money issue – It is understood loud and clear up front that if you pull out you dont get a refund because there are waiting lists for every seminary and they could have filled that spot and gotten the funds that are figured in to their budget. If that isn’t okay with you, then don’t sign up.
(run on sentence to the extreme)
Arig – I commend you for doing what was best for your daughter!! Yes there are times when Hashem wants us to persevere despite hardship, but there are other times when Hashem wants us to do what’s right even if it goes against the norm (or the wallet). So Yasher Koach and I wish your daughter and you much hatzlacha. In the zchus of choosing your kid over money (not to imply it was an issue of yours), may you be rewarded with enough money to make up for the loss!!
*The Syag*