aries,
after all the serious discussions and therapist visits (never knew one must go to a tharapist before making a weighty decision) have taken place, there will still be some kids who really honestly thought they can handle it but then find out while they are there that they just can’t. That doesn’t mean they didn’t take the decision seriously, it just means they are not nevi’im.
Would you also say that every couple who gets divorced did not take their engagement and wedding seriously?