Sure broken engagements are painful, but often they are a necessary painful break that stops something worse from taking place. So sorry for young people hurt and feeling rejected by broken engagements as parental expectation and communal gazing affect judgement and pain enormously. But once the break is done those directly affected the girl and boy can have a breather and re-evaluate what they want and need in a shidduch. Often the hurt that comes out from a broken engagement is from a sense of hurt pride and shame, natural and healthy to feel but greatly exaggerated because we live our lives so closely with the extended community. We feel embarrassed by it all. But TIME AND MOT OF ALL EMUNAH HEAL! Later we realise it is so often not the other person we miss but a sense of awkwardness that hurts. Take it easy and when ready date again. You will be amazed at the way when the right person comes along, nothing else matters. I am not being naive but speaking from experience.
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