Health, I’d like to say a few things.
First of all, I think it is wrong to judge people and assume they will “certainly” follow a path just because someone you know has done that. Everyone is different and everyone has different tolerances for things.
Secondly, we really don’t know exactly what QB meant by “Not exactly kosher”, and it could be very different from what your ex was writing. When I saw QB’s words of “Not exactly kosher”, I simply thought she meant that perhaps certain posters here would consider them inappropriate, but not everyone. Which I don’t consider very harmful.
I do understand that you probably feel very strongly about what you wrote since it must have been very hard for you when your ex was writing such material, and you just want to prevent such a scenario from happening again. But even so, I think you said it too harshly.
I’m not at all trying to be disrespectful! Please forgive me if it seems that I am. I just think your post can be hurtful, and I think you could have said what you were trying to say in a less-accusing way.