m in I- i understand, logically, the point you are making. from a frum standpoint you feel this way. i have worked extensively with off the d kids and budding bts. they do not need and should not hear about your struggles. it does not give off the “we’re in this together vibe.” what it tells them is A. i can try really hard and maybe never get there so the heck with it and B. destroys your credibility. im not saying you need to have all the answers- you can always say “lets find a book on that” or ” i know a really big rabbi who im sure can help us”, but to acknowledge that you find certain basic things tough is akin to informing them that you cant deal and dont value your yiddishkeit enough. im not saying that what you mean, so dont jump down my throat, but thats what they hear. DO NOT share these things. they also wont be impressed or like you more.
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