moving on.
in order to truly convince someone of something you need to believe it yourself. otherwise the person youre trying to convince could see right through you if they have half a brain. honesty works too. most people don;t expect it…so its a very effective tool in persuasion.
THEREFORE if you want to be mekarev people…which is essentially convincing and persuading them that what you believe is right and what they currently believe is wrong…you need to be absolutely certain of what youre saying. you need to believe it without any scintilla of doubt. soliek if you have emuna issues then get those sorted before you start telling people to believe what you do. if you dont know what you believe…how should they.
as far as averos go…in my opinion the ikkar is emuna and hashkafah. LET ME EXPLAIN BEFORE YOU JUMP DOWN MY THROAT. most people who sin so it l’teavon. they like watching movies…they cant be bothered to go to shul…they enjoy lashon hara…etc. its not because of any lack of emuna, proper hashkafa or rebellion. its simply l’teavon. therefore if a person has a very strong hashkafah and very strong foundations in emuna then even though they may be doing certain averos…they know that what tehy are doing is wrong and exactly why its wrong and therefore they WILL change because they have the capacity to. people can only live with cognitive dissonance for so long.
so why do people sin? because no one is perfect and the yetzer hara tells us to give in to teh guf…and we do…but just because someone does certain averos does not meaen that they are not qualified for kiruv.