In my minyan there was a fellow who was adamant about not bringing young kids, who disturb other people to shul. A new family with a teenaged “special” child moved into the neighborhood and the father brought him to shul. He disturbed people just like the little kids, but this person didn’t say a word. It was his grandson.
Peoples perspectives change when they see the other side.
I’m not saying this man is right or wrong. What I AM saying is that you have to see both sides before making decisions or judgements. Even then an unbiased 3rd party, in this case the Rav of the shul, had to be consulted about what to do.
I guess every shul will do their own thing based on the guidance of its Rav regarding those who disturb.