mommamia22, I dont know if shidduchim can be made into science as everyone is trying to do. It obviously creates a lot of anxiety and stress. The most important ingredient in this is Hashem. Second, I would guess, is if the two dating really start to like each other.
Can one say that every person from the “right school and right family” will be more loving, better behaved, considerate, and compatible than anyone from a “not-so-right” school or family?
I guess I am saying put effort into nurturing the kind of lifestyle that will enhance your child’s
status, who you know is great anyway, but dont stress so much on the small stuff.
There is a great saying which says, “The road is not the map.” I hope that makes some sense.
Hatzlacha, and your children are very lucky to have a thoughtful and conscientious mom like you.