Reply To: preparing for shidduchim

Toi

Don’t you live in kiryat belz, if I’m not mistaken?

There’s the way we want the world to be and the way it is.. I’m not suggesting someone sending their child to a school that’s totally ‘off”, but the reality is that there are schools that are considered better and those that are less so. I’ve heard people discriminating against children who learned in a yeshiva where the education is not on such a high level (although they produce kids with yiras shamayim). No one wants their kids to be discriminated against. It’s easy to say “I wouldn’t accept them if they don’t accept me” but it can be harder for kids like that in the future. Why do you think parents with kids with special issues insist the kids go to regular yeshivas rather than (frum) special programs or why kids who have been molested were told to keep it quiet (yes, I agree it’s all crazy)? So, where’s the defining line of how far to go to make sure you’re a person others would want?

My point in discussing, Toi, where you live, is I imagine that you are somewhat picky with your kids education and you would not choose to send them to a school that your community would not accept, even if you think it’s a good school. In your community they would not overlook someone who veered from the norm so easily. I mean no offense, this is just the way that I see it.