observanteen: in response to why i didnt send it. i cant. i dont want to give out any identifying information so i’ll try to tell you teh situation. A very close family friend has a son that got married, had children, then got divorced. During thier short marriage, i got to be very close with this particular daughter in law. After they got divorced, she started to change. Gradually at first, but then more boldly. She no longer covers her hair (which is not something i can judge, but i doubt she got a heter), does not dress tznius, sends her children to public school, doesnt teach them any Jewish topics, has a goy as a boyfriend and let him move in, and i could go on and on…
At first she was talking to me but because of my and my families long time relationship with her ex’s family, she chose to ignore me and will have nothing to do with me…
Recently i wrote the following letter. Understand that this letter was written a few months ago at a moment of utter frustration and anger at this woman. I know that its during aseres y’mei t’shuva now, and believe me when i say i’m working on myself not to hate her. Again this letter was written a while ago.:
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I dont even know what to say anymore. Well who cares what i have to say because YOU OBVIOUSLY DONT! How could you do what you are doing?! How could you live with yourself?!
There are so many couples that want but cant have children and you take yours and let them be abused physically, emotionally, and spiritually! HOW DARE YOU! You are not fit to be a human being let alone a mother! You told me time and again that you are doing the best you can but let’s cut to the chase, your talk is garbage! You dont give a hoot about your children! You just used me to get sympathy and validate your wrongdoings! well guess what! I dont care about you any more! I dont care what happens to you! I hope social services sees beneath your dirty little act and takes the children away from you!
And lastly, I hope G-d gives you more than a wake up call…