briskforlife
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“say tehillim… really?”
Whats wrong with saying tehillim?
chocolateluver- I once had a friend like this when we were younger. She was still in HS and I was so shocked that she was seeing boys without the parents knowledge (eventually they found out). All i had to do as a friend was be patient and try to explain to her what she was doing. (and i prayed for her so much).
Sometimes when people are missing some care and attention they try to look for it elsewhere. In this case she found herself a “boyfriend”. She was such a good girl from a good family and everything, but as people grow up, sometimes they want to look for something they feel is missing.
In my case it took some time till she learnt that she wasnt the only girl this guy was seeing. It broke her heart but thats when she realized that what she was doing wasnt right. Sometimes people dont have the clarity to see things as they are and now my friend upon realizing decided that this wasnt what she was looking for.
Try to be patient and be there for her. It could just be a phase (hormones) and all she needs to do is become a little more mature over time. Keep reminding her that what she is doing is wrong (this guy isnt meant for her) etc.
Now, I dont know how old you or your friend are. But if you are in shidduchim already try to set her up with someone else. Send your friend emails about Rabbi Wallerstein’s shiurim and talk about how good it was or how you heard it and thought it was great and you just wanted to share it with her(without mentioning your friends situation).
Good luck and all the best.