If you want, you can email me for someone who might be able to help. Though, you’ll have to guess my email address. (It’s not that hard.)
It’s a pity, because the particular issue you mention is very dealable. You would do well with someone who can put things in perspective.
When you spend money, although it is hard, you feel it is worth it in the long run. You can apply that way of thinking to her job, as well. If it is a strongly ingrained Mishegaas, so be it. It’s possible to look past it. It’s possible for her to look past her complaints, as well. It would be a real pity to give up.
You might not need someone with a degree. A seasoned Talmid Chacham is a great person to talk to, to get things in perspective. You walk away enlightened. You can go to both, too.