snjn: Hi. Im s2021. I dont really post here anymore but every occasional blue moon i skim through the coffee room (because lets face it- once u start in here, u really cant stop..) and ur post was just screaming at me respond! respond! So here I go. I hope i dont offend u in any way.. and if i do just tell urself- O shes divorced so she obviously knows nothing about life.. and also this isnt directed at YOU its at the working on it’s wife..whom i dont even know exists..
intro: I would also feel resentfull, but if its done respectfully i think its apropriate. U r a team. u share. right?
a)good point, u need 2 b appreciated 4 who u r but..
b)Im sure u would RATHER do things ur ideal way but being a single mom aint exactly dreamy either is it? and from the looks of things… Finances CAN clearly destroy everything. Is now really the time to b so worried about ur own comfort?
c)Oh Puh LEASE!! Life isnt a neat little plan that u choose. It is chosen 4 u by GOD. Do ppl choose to loose a child Chv? Get laid off? Not b able 2 find a shidduch? U have to do the best u can to make it work with the unique challenges and curves that r thrown ur way. Its hard 2 eccept but at sum point or another we realize that life isnt easy. Now lets roll up our sleeves and survive it. Yup, scary thought, i know.
d) being in debt, the prospect of losing my marriage, and destroying my childrens emotionall stability would make ME want to work as many hours as possible. Do those not seem like good enough reasons 2 u?
Okay im done now.