How do you expect a boy to have a plan for marriage?
All he is told is that the only honorable thing for him to do is to sit and learn in Kollel, knowing that his wife will have gone to a higher education school to be prepared for a parnassa.
She will be the breadwinner, the baby carrier, a busy Mother
and everything else. knowing this, Why would any bachur be motivated to have a plan. The system is messed. There has to be a better way. Once upon a time it was honorable to be a professional or just a good job and still set aside time to learn and be involved with Ruchnius things. Many pious Jews and Rabbonim as well were working for their families whilst still dedicated to learning with a shiur in the morning and then again at night. If there are no “Zevulans” in our midst..who will help support all the Torah institutions?