Reply To: Acknowleding something good/nice that someone has done for you.

Thank you everyone for your help/advice & encouragement in my dealing w/ this hurdle. I do appreciate it very much. Sorry for the delay in getting any response from me, but I am in work & it’s not so simple for me to keep on top of what’s going on in the C.R. since I’m quite busy at work & especially now @ the 1st part of the month.

By nature, I’m the type that I do like to & try to do things for others or help them out if I’m able to cause by doing such acts of kindness earns me so to speak more “points” in earning more z’chusim which is something that we all need to obtain. Earning more z’chusim is something which can help us all at any point in the long run in any shape or form. And when you’re going through a time in your life, where you need Hashems constant help & guiding hand in order to enable you to push through w/ all your various trials & tribulations that we have to deal w/ on a constant basis, we need to work on trying to better our lives in which ever positive way that we can.

So one thing that I sometimes try to do for some people (those that I know or think would appreciate it) since I realized that I had a talent for it was that when I’d get an invitation to a simcha be it a Bar Mitzvah or a Wedding, so what I do is that I take the person’s name (Chasan or Kallah, depending on whose side I’m invited from for a wedding) & write it going downwards & what I do is I look for an appropriate Pasuk from Tehillim & sometimes elsewhere if something pops into my mind for each letter of that person’s name whether they have one name or more. So I’m working w/ a Tehillim Chida & a Transliterated Hebrew/English Tehillim to find the translation of the Psukim. This usually can take me anywhere bet. an 1 1/2 to 2 hrs. & sometimes even more than that. But before I send it out, I usually run it through w/ one of my friends just to see if it sounds good & that it makes sense. So it’s definitely a lot of work-but it’s a good challenge for me-cause although it’s a little hard, I still enjoy it. So when the people to whom I send it to don’t acknowledge anything to me after all the hard work I put into it, that’s when it gets to me. It’s not that I’m doing just so that I can get a thank you from that person. But, I just feel that if someone does something really nice for you, so then why can’t the person be a metsch & acknowledge the action that was done for them?

There is such a thing that some people just don’t fargin another person for being able to master something of the like or when something goes better for another person than for them. So it’s below their dignity to even pick up a phone & give some sort of acknowledgement to me to say anything of the like.

Am I wrong in my feelings? And if yes, can you tell me how to better or change my way of going about it? Thanx.