It may not be so easy to know what to do at the time things are happening. Hindsight is 20/20.
So how is that issue working out where you had to speak to your Rav again? I pray everyone in that family you spoke about is safe and ok. I was a little distressed that IF, c”vs a million times, there may be someone being abused, they had to endure it longer as their situation was put up for a consensus in an online coffee room.