“Yes, but you can’t do that. You know why? Because the boys won’t put up with it. And they control the market.”
The shadchanim should be the ones who have the control. But they dont. They allow the inmates to run the asylum. They should put their foot down.
“So girls should band together and refuse to date any guys who don’t accede to certain conditions.”
No, shadchanim should band together and not set up anyone, male or female, who doesn’t adhere to certain conditions. One of those conditions should be respond in a timely manner.