From a personal experience- what should have been a 4 hour drive for one date turned into an 8 hour drive due to an accident with numerous fatalities. What should have been a 30 minute drive to the location I was taking her to, turned into a 2 hour drive, also due to the traffic. I asked her if we could go out to eat since I hadn’t eaten in 12 hours but she refused saying that she ate already. (I was asking from a humanitarian point of view, not a social point of view.)
Anyway- she told the shadchan that I’m slow, rude (for yawning too much and for suggesting that we go to eat so late at night) and some other “compliments” to show her gratitude for wasting 36 hours and $150+ on her.
The shadchan never called back with any other suggestions (no big loss). Don’t you think a more appropriate approach would have been to call my Rebbe or family Rav to see if I’m always like this, or maybe I just wasn’t myself due to the circumstances?
Dr. Pepper, I thought you were out of shidduch stories but this one takes the cake! Wow, sorry you had to go thru that but on the other hand in a way its good it happened – it made you discover quickly that she’s not a mentch.