“Physical abuse is a red line, you walk away after the FIRST incident.”
absolutely. i dont care how much teshuva a person does, or how remorseful they feel…once a person is physically abusive they are out. no three strikes. its too empowering to just give up. i mean…you ask for something…dont get it. you yell…still dont get it. youre verbally abusive (which itself is grounds for divorce in my opinion) still dont get what you want. all of a sudden you hit your wife in the face and she does whatever you want…there is no return from power like that. ive never been married, but i HAVE lived in an abusive home and all abusive people are the same. the second they raise a hand is the second they become unfit for any kind of relationship.