well i thought you were both frummer than that.
what was this in response to? im confused again. i feel like i say that WAY too often 🙁
i can just speak for myself here, but if i ever try to help/advise/”change” somebody it’s because they don’t seem happy with themselves, they seem to at least want to be a tiny bit different or at least understand something they don’t get. so i might try to help or explain an idea that is clearer in my mind. i don’t go around trying to change people. i don’t think anyone should.