Health,
Emotional support, no. An acknowledgment would have been appreciated deeply.
The rabbi made a choice. I accept that. I do think that if there are any rabbis out there who read this, I would encourage them to at least express a minimal word of sympathy in such situations, that’s all.
It is not “guilt”, but I think the absence of the communal support that is normally part of the Jewish way of mourning. We (and I include myself) don’t really know how to respond outside those boundaries.
In truth, the process has taught me to appreciate more deeply the practices that define Jewish mourning — even though they did not pertain to my loss.