Goq, I hear you completely. Without specifically trying to, I’ve figured out a few people on here. I just wanted to tell you (and everyone, actually) to be aware because its so easy for info to get out. I apologize if I was too harsh.
happiest, honestly, if you work for a school, I don’t think its up to you to tip her. If you do give something, I would say to stick with a gift. (And I must say, the idea is very nice.)
estherhamalka, obviously you can’t tip everyone but try to thank everyone to show them their work is appreciated. I don’t know if your mailman will really appreciate a thank you card, but maybe you can add a box of donuts to a card (or something like that).