I once asked a boy who I was dating why he opened the door for me and his answer was, “That was what I was told to do and that is what everyone does.” So I said oh otherwise you wouldn’t have and said no. I was really shocked. I said so you live your life and do things just because you were told to and because everyone else does it. He couldn’t answer me. I didn’t date him after that.
Well, I wish you good luck with this fight.
I would have said the same thing, and would have been glad to be dropped by you.
And all my friends also would have said the same thing. There is something to be said for following social norms.