Dr D,
1) There are those who are makpid for keilim as well.
2) Very doubtful that Rav Elyashiv and R’ Shlomo Zalman ever told anyone that it’s not better to eat cholov Yisroel.
3) R’ Moshe still recommended cholov Yisroel (in the classic sense).
4) Pri Chodosh (in some cases).
5) Disagreeing with R’ Moshe (as many big poskim did) is in no way impugning his character.